Hands up who has enjoyed solo sex? Anybody?
Let’s face it, we can all be a bit shy when it comes to talking about female masturbation and self-loving, but feck that.
Sex shouldn’t be something we only reserve for a partner. Sex has so many benefits, aside from the obvious orgasmic ones. As well as helping us to explore and embrace our sexuality and bodies, sex can improve our mental health by reducing stress. With so many benefits, it would be a shame to reserve getting down and dirty for when you’re with a partner.
Solo lovin' isn’t something to be ashamed or fearful of; it should be something that you embrace and incorporate into your life. By continually seeking out knowledge of your unique preferences and desires, you will gain a better understanding of what you like and don’t like, which will, in turn, create better sexual experiences alone and with a partner.
To help you on your solo sex journey, I’ve rounded up my favourite tips below to ensure you have mind-blowing sex without a partner.
1. Make it an occasion
Treat yourself like the sex goddess you are. Light those candles, burn that incense, throw on the special occasion silky undies and crank that sexy Spotify playlist. Make solo sex an event because why the hell not! Creating the right atmosphere will not only help get you in the mood; it will appeal to your senses and enhance your sexual experience.
2. Fantasize baby
Solo sex is a time to explore your wildest fantasies with absolutely no judgement from anyone. Use your imagination to live out your desires or explore porn. If you go down the porn route, make sure that you are viewing consensual and legal porn. There are some great female porn directors out there, such as Erika Lust and female-friendly websites such as Ersties.com.
3. The power of props
If you want to up the ante of your solo session, why not experiment with some props? Toys are always a fun edition to spice up sex and masturbation is the perfect time to experiment with a variety to see what you like and don’t like. The fabulous Shawna Scott runs the gorgeous online sex-positive boutique Sexsiopa.ie, where they have a wide range of toys suitable for newbies to pros, so you are sure to find something that takes your fancy.
4. Switch up positions
Switching positions isn’t just reserved for sex with a partner; it can enhance solo sessions as well. Switch between being on your back to all fours, hump something, use fingers as well as a vibe, experiment with butt stuff...the options are endless.
5. Get 'handsy'
Your hands shouldn’t be reserved for certain areas during masturbation. Don’t be afraid to explore the rest of your body during a solo sesh. Grab some lube and while pleasuring yourself with one hand, let your other hand roam to wherever your body takes you. This can result in a more intense orgasm, which is always a good time!